Don’t you love being alone in the crowd? Millions of stars in the universe! A part of it and yet apart from it? Don’t you adore the anonymity it gives? You could be anyone and get lost in it. Lost but not truly lost! As you would have you to know and identify. The mass of life passing you by Like a rolling stone – each rolling, each unique. Alone but not as alone as you could be If you lost your self, your identity to the ebb and flow of life around you. So you stand apart from the crowd. How does it matter so long you have yourself for company? And that of a couple one or two just like you. Being different is no chore, no fault, no sin. How would you feel if you lied to yourself and you were untrue? Wouldn’t that be the worst kind of betrayal? Worse than being apart from the crowd, alone in it? Unbind the chains you’ve wrapped around you, Change is the only constant – even time, the mightiest, falls! Stand alone, stand tall – the weight of one is no weight at all.
Those who are at ease with their deeds do not find any pleasure or pain with another’s criticism or praise. How does it matter what others think about you be it your family, friends or the society at large if you are comfortable in your own skin? Knowing the truth of your doings and the intention behind them births confidence in yourself. But most of the times, our own intentions and deeds are impure. We mean to hurt or harm others through them. What we forget is that to hurt or harm someone else, the impurity has to rise in ourselves first. But we cannot escape the effects of such a doing that results in stress, tension, anxiety and other psychosomatic disorders. We are always concerned with what other people think about us. We are never bothered about what we think about ourselves when that’s what impacts us the most. True peace can be found only at the bottom of self-realization. We forget this simple truth. You cannot be happy if you don’t know your own motivations/intentions behind your actions. You will remain always a scared, unreliable and uncertain shadow of the individual you have the potential to be. Knowledge brings confidence, trust and power. Knowing yourself, your motivations and intentions and being fully alert and attentive while taking any decisions and performing your deeds is the only way to happiness, peace and joy in your life. There is no other way. You cannot be blind towards yourself and still be truly happy.
Misguided happiness is not true happiness. Self delusion is not peaceful. Ignorance is not bliss. Knowledge is power. Self realization is the key. The mind is highly trainable. Train yourself to be alert every moment, to be cognizant of your every action. Don’t make any decisions blindly. Don’t perform any actions rashly, randomly. Initially, it will be tough. The mind is like a monkey but with practice comes ease.
We become so used to a fixed behavioral pattern that it becomes our standard goto response for anything that happens with us. The known provides comfort despite the wrongness of it. Why are we so unwilling to inspect our own selves and make changes as required? Why is truth so unbearable, so unmanageable, so unpalatable that we prefer our cocoon of lies and deceit to the simple beauty of truth? Is it because it’s cold, harsh and not many have an iron clad digestive system? Why are we so apprehensive about our self image that we lie and cheat to maintain a rosy picture of ourselves instead of removing the thick blinkers of self deception and take a good, hard look at what we truly are?
Why do we revel in blindness? As human beings, we are on the topmost level of evolution. We have brains which can think, analyze, reason and conquer over the animal instincts we were born with instead of just blindly following them. So, why don’t we? Why this mass delusion? The society would be a better place if we actually used our brains and be truthful. Then why don’t we? Is it because of the life long mental conditioning that we receive from our parents, teachers and the society in general since the moment we are born? Is that conditioning too strong for most to just break free of it? Or does the mind need to be trained right from the beginning to think out of the box, not just believe blindly in whatever it is taught?
The mind is a high strung and equally highly trainable animal. It can be taught anything. Then why don’t we train it to do that which is its primary function? To ask questions, to doubt where there is a reasonable doubt, to be unbiased, to think, analyze, reason and then arrive at the correct conclusions? Why don’t we do that? Why do we persist in delusions? Is it because of the conditioning or the cocoon we have wrapped around us? A goto behavior, a standard response is all that we can manage. We believe in conformity instead of standing out in the crowd. If others live a miserable life then we too are okay with our own miserable one. No standing out ever! Not even for happiness. Why?